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Something a little different to go with today's Picture of the Day: a whole bunch of words!

But first, the picture:

That's the little potato himself, getting ready for Opening Day. And now, the words -- I wrote this a few days ago and didn't know what to do with it, so here it is.

A Father's Lament

Baby Theo was born at the end of December. Nearly three full months before he was born, he had his first Blue Jays jersey. The plan was to raise him "right", the way I was raised.

He attended his first baseball game at the tender age of fifteen weeks: Opening Day. He tolerated it surprisingly well -- he loved the crowd, and the noise didn't bother him except for when I cheered, so I learned not to do that.

He's been to three games now. At the first one he lasted seven innings, and at the second and third he stayed through the whole game, though both of those involved long naps in the middle. I was on cloud nine! My little boy liked baseball games!

Not so quick, pops.

I'm writing this at South Fletcher Arena in Brampton, where Mrs. Hank is coaching a hockey game. Theo and I are in the stands. Mrs. Hank, I should note, was once invited to skate with the Brampton Thunder, a team playing in the NWHL, the highest level of women's hockey in this country outside of the national team. She declined in order to focus on her education, and that's why I should really refer to her as Doctor Hank. (She did play a couple of seasons on their farm team with a more casual commitment level.) So perhaps I should have seen what was coming.

When the buzzer blared, sounding the end of the game before Doctor Hank's team was to take the ice, I expected Theo to cry, or at least make an irritated face. Instead he smiled and giggled. And when the game started, he was mesmerized: he followed the action, wide-eyed, a big, goofy grin on his face. When a player scored and the crowd cheered, he began to coo. He flapped his arms excitedly when the action came towards us.

I began to realize that my four month-old son merely tolerated the baseball games he had been to, but he was actually enjoying this hockey game. Could it be genetic? Do I have a hockey kid? Doesn't the name I gave him -- Theodore Aaron Reynolds, it just drips with baseball history! -- count for anything?

I'm hoping deep in my heart that the real issue here is that the Justine Blainey Wellness Centre Coyotes have bright red jerseys. Maybe the Cardinals will wear their alternate red uniforms to the Rogers Centre on June 13th and let me know one way or another.

(Theo fell asleep three quarters of the way through the game, and the Coyotes lost their season opener 9-7, mostly due to an absolutely brilliant goaltending performace from their opponent.)

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Mick Doherty - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:00 PM EDT (#115804) #
I don't know about the kid, NFH, but I've never seen the phrase "brilliant goaltending" used to describe a 9-7 game before. Isn't that sort of like saying "Lilly scattered 23 hits in beating the Red Sox, 12-10"?
Magpie - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:13 PM EDT (#115807) #
Ever notice how you put a baseball cap on a baby and PRESTO! - you've got Don Zimmer?
Named For Hank - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:19 PM EDT (#115810) #
I don't know about the kid, NFH, but I've never seen the phrase "brilliant goaltending" used to describe a 9-7 game before.

Trust me, at this level of hockey, it's excellent. The league is 4-on-4, so it's wide open, and while the Coyote goalie turned away about a dozen shots, their opponent was peppered. I'd estimate he made about 40 saves.

Mike Green - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:31 PM EDT (#115814) #
It's no use, Aaron. Theo might not end up as a diehard ball fan, but little Augustina who might arrive in 2007 or something could equally well end up disappointing her mother by being a crafty lefty (pitcher, I mean).
Pepper Moffatt - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:48 PM EDT (#115818) #
by being a crafty lefty (pitcher, I mean).

Heh. That could work. How about "Sandy Koufax Reynolds". Then it works whether the baby ends up being a boy or a girl. :)

Mike Green - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:51 PM EDT (#115820) #
Oh, oh. I forgot with the last name Reynolds, Alison would be perfect. Allie Reynolds, plus you get the free Elvis Costello reference.
jsoh - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 02:59 PM EDT (#115824) #
NFH: Where'd you get that cap for Theo? I've got a 1 year old nephew thats crying out for some gear.

Well. Thats my argument at least :)
Named For Hank - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 03:29 PM EDT (#115827) #
Jsoh, I got it at the end-of-season sale at the Dome last year for two bucks! They might still have some on the clearance racks of the Jays store -- they had a lot of 'em.

And I'm writing down all these names. Doctor Hank will probably curse you guys in a couple of years when I start trotting 'em out.
costanza - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 04:51 PM EDT (#115833) #
Ever notice how you put a baseball cap on a baby and PRESTO! - you've got Don Zimmer?

Yup, I remember Conan O'Brien, shortly after his baby's birth, remarking off-handedly while interviewing a guest something like "Yeah, people ask who the baby looks like, and I don't know what to say... I mean it's a baby... she looks like Don Zimmer"

the shadow - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 05:05 PM EDT (#115836) #
Aaron you have to be a very happy man.Great picture
Gerry - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 05:26 PM EDT (#115839) #
Cute kid, must be like his mother.
Coach - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 05:59 PM EDT (#115841) #
Lucky kid, to have NFH and Mrs. Dr. Hank as parents.

Especially if you imagine a chaw, the resemblance is uncanny. Theo is Mini-Zim.
Magpie - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 06:27 PM EDT (#115850) #
Theo is Mini-Zim.

But don't worry - it's a phase they all go through.

Willy - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 08:52 PM EDT (#115877) #
A super photo, NFH. I suggest we try to come up with a caption for what the little potato is saying. I'll chip in with "J.P. said *that* about my Dad?!"

Magpie's right about it being a phase. Trouble is, after several decades, he might look look like Zim again. (I can remember when Zim was almost skinny, and going to be the Dodgers' infielder of the future. Him and Bob Ramazotti.)
VBF - Thursday, May 05 2005 @ 11:34 PM EDT (#115889) #
Aside from the Zimmerness, if there was a bay that looked like he was born to watch baseball, it would likely look like your son, NFH.

And there's no shame in a hockey AND baseball kid. I think there's some third basemen on that Toronto team who played both.
Magpie - Friday, May 06 2005 @ 01:26 AM EDT (#115892) #
A caption contest! YES!

"Put me in coach! I'm ready to play!"

Coach - Friday, May 06 2005 @ 09:43 AM EDT (#115900) #
"Why is daddy yelling at the TV? Is Phil Cuzzi behind the plate?"

I met the wee spud for the first time last night. He's every bit as adorable as this picture. Really alert, interested in everything, and trying remarkably hard to communicate with everyone using smiles, giggles and random syllables. Because Mrs. Coach works with babies all the time, I meet quite a few. They're all lovely, but at four months, some are more interactive than others. Like his folks, Theo's delightful company.
kpataky - Friday, May 06 2005 @ 11:25 AM EDT (#115911) #
I love baseball - as most people who know me already know. I played all the way up from when I was 6 in T Ball through the end of high school. When I wasn't studying for school or actually playing it, I was thinking about it. I can mark time and the years since I was a kid by who was playing in the World Series. As a player, I was considered to be above average I would say. I played at a very small high school which did win the state Championship once in the 4 years I was there. When I went off to college, I decided to stop playing to concentrate on my studies, so I could get "real job". Boy, that is a decision I would never make again a million times over. If I only knew then, what I know now.

I have a son now, like yourself. When he was born, I bought him a little plush baseball that said "my very first baseball" on it. I still have it somewhere. He had his own Yankees jersey, and hat before too long, and we'd always dress him up in baseball clothes. He's played TBall, and has worked himself all the way to Triple-A and is 10 years old.

In 2003, I felt I was losing him as a baseball fan to basketball, Pokemon, video games and everything else kids his age are into these days. So I bought a season ticket for my family to the local Double-A baseball team, the New Haven Ravens - then the Double A affiliate of the Toronto Blue Jays. That seemed to pull him back in. We got extremely close to the players and the organization. If we weren't at their field, they were at ours - watching our kids play and being part of our lives. Then the season ended. Then the Ravens moved to New Hampshire. Then my son's love of baseball started slipping away again.

I've retained my passion for the Blue Jays. I even recently took my son to Toronto recently and stayed in the Dome with him. We went to a couple games, had really great seats and went to the Welcome Home Luncheon where we met the entire team. He loved it! But the sad reality is, the trip couldn't change the hurdles that today's kids can't get over in order to love the game the way our generation does.

1) Poor perception: My son recently told me, "The players are all on steroids. They don't sign anything anymore or talk to us at the park and they are all just plain mean and greedy." Baseball has an image problem with today's youth.
2) The game is too slow. There is not enough action. A nine inning game rarely is less than 3 hours. Basketball games are over in under 2. Because every game is televised in once way or another, the time in between innings seems to last forever.
3) We can't get good seats anymore. With the internet and online ticket purchasing, big companies are buying up all the "good seats" the day the become available and what is left over are the nose bleeds. So the common folk get stuck with those as the only option. Who can plan 8 months in advance to buy tickets for their family? Who knows what they will doing tomorrow let alone in 5 or six months to buy tickets when you have kids? When a kid goes to a game, he wants to be near the field so he can see the players and hear the on field "noise" - and a chance for a ball. Just a chance. As it is, ticket prices are ridiculous. So if we buy scalped (or resold) seats, those would be more than ridiculous.
4) So the only option is to watch the games on TV, right? Wrong. My kid is 10 and he has never once sat with me to watch an entire inning of a game, let alone all 9 of them on TV. With all these late starting times and all the commercials, kids can't watch a whole game anyway. And forget it when a commercial comes on. They have better things to do than sit through those - especially when they are all advertising beer, cars and beer anyway.

So what does this all mean? Well, now I help coach my son's little league team. I can't get him to practice outside the normally scheduled practices and games. He's not interested. He loves playing the games when he does, but doesn't want to put anything extra into it. There too many other "more fun" things to do. As a coach, I am finding that even at 10 years old, we assume by watching enough baseball on TV these kids would learn some of the little things about the sport. Like not running on a fly ball until its known whether or not it will be caught. Or not to swing at a pitch if it's 3-0 and not right over the plate. Hey, a walk is as good as a hit in my book. Seeing how these other kids are, makes me realize its not just my kid that is not totally in love with the sport.

My son tells me I'm "obsessed" with baseball and that its not "normal". Those are his mother's words, I am sure. But hey, baseball lets me relax and not think about the problems of the real world. For those 3 hours I can step out of that world and enjoy something that I love. The more I can do that, the happier I will be I reason.
In summary, baseball is losing the younger generation of potential baseball fans. Its sad really. Eventually, there won't be enough revenue to support the ever growing salaries, and baseball is doomed to a downhill slide. In retrospect, when my son was born, I envisioned myself having my first catch with him, watching him play at various levels. Helping him. Teaching him the game. It seems so much a chore now than a pleasure.

Good luck with your attempts with your son...
Magpie - Friday, May 06 2005 @ 11:54 AM EDT (#115914) #
Well, Liam's mother and myself always joked that we were going to push him towards tennis - that's where the big money is, and while we're young enough to enjoy it.

When he was little (up to age 10 or so) Liam had very little interest in sports. He'd look in at a game on the television, but he was much more interested in computers and video games, in doing his own writing and drawing. Ah-ha, I thought. I have sired an artistic child. The jock gene has skipped a generation. (His mother was, and remains, the football fan of the family - although her years with me did unlock the splendours of the summer game. I did at least do that much for her!)

But Liam gradually grew more and more interested in baseball. He got interested in playing. This is where we discovered just what a difference it makes to play baseball for five hours a day every day from the age of five. All the things that come naturally to me - judging a ball in the air, picking up a grounder - did not come naturally to him at all. He has persevered however, and looks finally ready to make his high school team this year (now that he'd given up ever making the team.)

He's older than your son, so he has some perspective on athletes that a 10 year old can not have. He's a Braves fan when he watches the National League, and he never had any trouble distinguishing between Gary Sheffield the irritating nutcase and Gary Sheffield our star hitter. He doesn't have the same expectations from them.

Anyway Kevin, do not despair. Let the game come to him! And the game is what it's all about anyway.

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